Sunday, February 23, 2014

Clearly they didn't take weather into account

Check out the latest bullshit "happiness" chart (thank you Business Insider):


This is the kind of stupid horseshit that always pisses me off. HOW THE FUCK IS NORTH DAKOTA THE HAPPIEST STATE? Is the ability to snowmobile for 6 months out of the year one of the prime factors? And Minnesota is 4th happiest? Only if you like living in a frozen hellhole that people are obnoxiously snobby about because we have a lot of lakes. (Did anyone ever consider the fact that water is where mosquitos breed?) Next time, take the number of polar vortex events into consideration, and we'll be at the absolute bottom of the list.

DON'T follow your passion?!

Thanks to the Farnam Street Blog (which I highly recommend to anyone who will listen), I just watched an intriguing video that featured Cal Newport, the author of Maximize Your Potential. He presents the idea that telling people to "follow your passion" is actually detrimental advice, and that instead, people should work hard at what they do in order to become so good that they "can't be ignored." Being a master at what you do is the way to take control over your life so you can then mold your work into the life that you want.

That's perhaps an oversimplification of what he says, but I thought it was intriguing. Mr. Newport reported that in a study of Canadian college students (those Canucks just love being studied, don't they?), no more than 5% of them even had an identifiable passion to begin with, which would make the typical "follow your passion" advice meaningless, if not even somewhat cruel. I myself have struggled with finding a passion that was enough fun to try to do for a living. But in the end, it turns out, I just need to practice something enough to get really good at it. (Mr. Newport recommends something called "Deep Work" which is essentially working very hard at what you do in a systematic way.)

I highly recommend watching the video. Even if you're not struggling to either find or work at your passion, he has some good advice that applies to everyone. Plus, he's pretty charming... (wink)

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Conned by the rom coms

Why do I feel like the only way a man can prove his love and commitment is to want to have children? Oh yeah, probably because of every romantic comedy I've ever seen. It's a pretty twisted yardstick to measure a relationship by, even the more so for me, since my relationship history proves me thoroughly unlovable by this methodology. The unfortunate thing is that as I've gotten older and my maternal drive has kicked out of first gear, I've started feeling like a bit of a loser. Out of all the great (and terrible) guys I've dated, none of them ever confessed their love to me by saying, "I want to have kids with you." And that makes me feel shitty. I feel stupid for feeling this way at the same time, so it's a super fun double whammy of emotional shame.

So thank you, romantic comedies, for making me feel like a pathetic, unloved, never-a-leading-lady fool who will either settle for less than she wants or end up alone in a house of guinea pigs and garbage. Yay me!